Religion, business and other awkwardness

In modern, democratic civilisation, why should people who don’t follow a particular (or any) religion feel social pressure modify their behavior to avoid offending or inconveniencing someone who does?

Just think for a minute…

If you modify your behavior (however slightly) to appease the rules set by someone else’s god(s), you’ve got a moral and ethical problem on your hands.

The only way to completely avoid “offending” a person of a different religion is to convert to their religion. However, since there are so many religions, we will never succeed in making all of us happy and comfortable at the same time.

Offend and be offended.

That is the only alternative.

If you refrain from ordering beef in the presence of Hindus, pork in the presence of Jews or Muslims, or any sort of meat at all in the presence of pagan vegans, you are not just avoiding offence, you are also tacitly practicing their religion. You are being manipulated into doing something you would not usually do – into changing yourself – to suit, honour (in some way even unwittingly ‘worship’) another person’s god.


And then we get to the work place.

If you adjust any secular business work schedules or office rules to accommodate the religious time tables of selected groups of colleagues or employees, you have to do it for all religious groups (yes, even the ironic Pastafarians), or you imply unethical favouritism to a particular group.

Oh the conundrum.

Ultimately, it the individual is the one who has to chose between their job, their social circle and their religion.

The rest of us are not compelled to make that choice easier for the individual by accommodating the individuals religion through any sort of special allowances or personal sacrifices.

Surely a secular commercial enterprise should not feel pressure to give religious staff extra breaks during fast periods, move meetings away from prayer times or sacred days (especially when all the major religions pick a different day of the week to avoid work) or amend dress codes to the satisfaction of the office religious faction?

Every time you choose to amend behaviour or make allowances to avoid offending one religious group; you also explicitly offend everyone who is not a part of that group.

….And yet, every day, I read of more listed, commercial, businesses making ‘special allowances’ for staff of specific religions…

If business – the social entity that has the least incentive to make allowances of any kind – is making these allowances; it follows that it will not be long before the state also makes these special allowances for the vocally religious.

And if a country has different sets of standards – possible even a different set of rules – for a specific segment of the population… Well, we are all in trouble. Big trouble.


Equality or Liberty?

There comes a time every country, society and individual had to choose between Liberty and Equality; for the two are mutually exclusive.

You cannot achieve equality without violating the liberty of others. Likewise the definition of liberty forces one to accept inequality.

As for me, I choose freedom over fairness. I accept that I may not get everything I desire, but at least I am free to try.

What about you?

No one owes you anything

Are you an adult?

Are you old enough to work, drink, drive and vote?

Know how to read and write?


Lucky you.

Now read that headline again.

And again.

Got it?

No one ‘owes’ you anything.

No free education.

No job.

No car.

No ‘benefits’.

No ‘privileges’.

No handouts.

No kisses.

No relationships.

No respect or apologies, even.


You’re an adult.

Life’s not fair. Get over it. Stop whining.

Go out and EARN what you want.

If you don’t like where you are, move.

Eventually, we what we deserve.


On equality

Why do we strive for equality? We say we want smaller wage gaps, equal pay, equal rights, equal privilege, equal opportunites.

But do you really want to be equal with everyone else?

The worldwide median family income is less than $10,000 per annum.

That would be ‘fair’.

But do YOU want YOUR family to live on less than $10,000 per annum?

If you’re reading this on a computer, achieving that ‘fair’ wage will require YOU to give up a large chunk of your net-worth (and a good few bedrooms in your house).

It will require giving up luxuries like WiFi, seaside holidays and good wine (the stuff that comes in a nice understated bottle).

It will require giving up retirement plans and financial security, and living hand to mouth.

Do you still want to be equal?

What is ‘fair’ anyway? 

Life is not fair. Far from it.

Life is extremely UNFAIR, naturally.

You can see this in the wild. Some plants and animals are simply at the bottom of the food chain. Others are at the top.

Likewise, some people are born uncommonly beautiful. Or smart. Or tall. Or strong. Or thin. Or in a nicer climate.

Or rich.

Others are less fortunate.

However, we don’t insist that beautiful people wear bags on their heads to hide their gifted looks.

We don’t insist great minds get penalised with a frontal lobotomy to even the playing field.

We don’t shorten tall people’s legs. Or break the legs of great athletes to make them just the same as the rest of us.

We don’t force everyone to live in the Sahara desert – so we can all endure the same crappy climate.


We understand that there is no way to make these things fair and equal. Some people simply luck out.

Why then, when it comes to wealth, do we attempt to fix the system?

Why do we wish to penalise and punish the lucky in wealth?

Imagine if we applied the same forced equality principles to love… and forced all happy couples, the lucky in love, to break up their relationships to be equal to all the people broken homes…

Equality makes no sence if you have to take something from someone else to make it so.




Ask yourself these two questions before you post another update

Is this needy? 

Am I fishing for compliments? Begging for “likes” to boost my self-esteem?
Am I doing the online equivalent of asking the world if these jeans make me look fat?

Is this narcissistic?

Am I bragging? Showing off?
Am I just talking about myself and my selfies?

Before you post your next brand, business, or even a personal update on your favourite social media platform, ask yourself these two questions.

If the answer to either is “yes” do not press send.

Go back to the drawing board and come up with something valuable to humanity. Or, at least, useful to your target market.  Do not post things that are merely comforting to your own vanity.


When did being bad become good?

“The liberal idea of tolerance is more and more a kind of intolerance. What it means is ‘Leave me alone; don’t harass me; I’m intolerant towards your over-proximity.”
~ Slavoj Žižek


It says a lot about our society that it’s acceptable to behave as a slut, but not acceptable to not accept the slutty behaviour.

Since when did being bad become a good thing?

Since was did having morals and standards become morally reprehensible?

Since when do people, unashamedly, without morals (and often without any clothes on either) get to claim the moral high ground and publicly shame people with morals?

There is something very wrong with this picture.

Especially when we look beyond the proud nudes in front of us to the other, more serious, bad behaviours that are gaining acceptance and even admiration: Antisemitism, racism, militant nationalism, religious intolerance, hate speech, violence…

It appears as long as you can label yourself some kind of ‘victim’, ‘minority’, ‘previously disadvantaged’ or ‘oppressed’ group you can get away with murder – with public approval.


The biggest trend of now


Me me me.

That’s the biggest trend of today.

If you are a marketer, appeal to your target market’s selfish ambitions and narcissistic  tendencies and you will win them over.

The Guardian recently published an article on the current “epidemic of narcissism“.

The article speaks truth, and we’re only just embarking on our collective love affair with our collective selves.

#Selfies only made it into the dictionary in 2013.